Thing-a-Day Jan 23 #5 - Throwback Thursday

Welcome to Throwback Thursdays! In these entries, you can expect to read bits of old blogs and journals or even old YouTube [or MySpace] videos that I've done throughout the years! 

Here's a snippet from my personal blog back in 2010... Be warned, though, it's a little cringey, but the message is a positive one.

Situations.

There comes a time in a person’s life where a completely positive and uplifting thing (be it a situation, thought, person, material item, or whatnot) comes with some sort of negative connotation. Something that is as beautiful as a rose, pardon the cliché example, has thorns that ache for blood. When these times come, or these things happen, you’re so wrapped up in the beauty of the situation that you’re taken completely off-guard by it.

The question is not how to avoid these things. These situations may rarely be avoidable. No, my friend, the question is indeed how to manage them. Coping with these times, if you’re not prepared, can be devastating. On the other hand, however, being prepared could cause problems of becoming over-defensive. Being over-defensive can cause more of these situations, the kind that can be avoided. It is unnecessary and can very easily explode into even larger issues.

So, how does one cope with a situation that arises so suddenly that it delivers a seemingly crushing blow to the heart? How is one to deal with it within the midst of such desperate surprise? Those are questions that cannot be solidly answered. However, there are a few minute things that can help, but not completely because each situation is so unique and unpredictable that a solution to one will be the thing that tightens the noose in another. So to explain step by step what to do, as you may have guessed, would be completely useless.

I’m not delivering a note of despair, however. There is a positive light to it, believe me. It’s dim and rather hidden, but it’s there. I can only speak of what it is, not how to find it or use it.

However, I will speak first about what it is not. It is not an escape route. It’s not shutting down or shutting out the event as it happens. It is not to turn a blind eye from it. And it is not causing further chaos within the situation.

This is what it is. To find the one thing within the situation that can be brought to light and diminish the darkness of it. It is to find the love in an argument gone askew, not fling insults and gestures. To calmly sit down and discuss it, and then have a few laughs over something that will lighten the mood. It is that rose within the thorn bush. And believe me, friend, it is there. As I said, it’s just hidden, and you have to move very quickly towards it.

In closing, I would like to state that these situations are part of many relationships. There is no avoiding these random things, and arguments and other malarkey do come up. So my true advice is to be patient and not let these things get under your skin. Deal with them as they happen, and let it ride because this does not say that you’re not in the right relationship. And I sincerely promise that your relationship will be better if you do.

Cringe with me, people!